Need better bait...and another call for contributors

So apparently after the 3 dates that were recheduled (1 cancelled) I have hit a dry spell.  I am guessing I need better "bait" or to find a way to "chum the waters". 

I am still hoping to for people to help contribute to the blog.  You can request to be added as an author or you can email me if you want your stories posted anonymously.  Hopefully oneday I will get an actual subscriber to the blog.

I did check and so far I have had enough views for exactly 1 penny worth of revenue...LOL

Back in the water...

So last week I had 3 dates scheduled.  As previously stated the first date was a bust.

My second date was on Thursday.  We were scheduled to meet at 7pm but she requested to push it to 8.  I agreed.  It is almost 8:30 before she shows.  When I see her, I think about excusing myself to the rest room so I can update my status to NEXT, once again.  But I give her a shot.  At least she didnt look older than her photos.  A little heavier yes but not older.  I spent the time to get to know her and even ended the date with a kiss.

My third date on Friday in Staten Island was cancelled because I did not contact her between Monday and Friday.  Lesson learned.  But then again, I really did not want to drive to SI anyway.

On Saturday I met up with date #2 for drinks at Croxley's in Farmingdale.  This time she was 45 minutes late.  And since I was 10-15 minutes early, that meant me spending about an hour in the parking lot.   Speaking with her she let me know that she is a perpetually late person, and it would be something I would have to deal with.  We ended the night with another kiss but it left me thinking.

In regards to my previous post, yes I would have slept with her if given the opportunity.   As I said I have no problem with the general definition of casual sex.  The problem is both parties have to be on the same page.  She let me know that she wanted to get to know me better before taking that step. I was already on the fence, and I am not really sure I want to get to know her beyond a physical thing.  Since we are not on the same page, and I don't play games, I have my hook back in the water.

I dont believe in casual sex....

* This is an extension of a facebook update that prompted quite a few comments so I thought I would move it to the blog *

I don't believe in casual sex. Nothing about sex should ever be casual. 
Casual sex is having sex outside of a traditional or romantic relationship.  While the choice of sexual partners and timing may be deemed casual, the actual sex should be anthing but. 

If anything sex with a regular partner and especially between a married couple would should be deemed more casual than casual sex.  Many times this is exactly what leads to the end of relationships.  Sex may then become routine and typically more and more infrequent. 

In the comments prostitues were referrenced more than once, claiming that they would be considered casual sex.   How can anything that is illegal and considered taboo my most people considered casual.  If anything it is the furthest thing from casual sex.  You have to worry about getting arested.  Will it be worth the money.  Why do I feel empty after.  She has to worry about her saftey and whether you are going to try to rip her off.  And both of you have to worry about STDs and your physical saftey.  Now if you think that is casual there is something wrong with your thought process.

I am not saying you should limit yourself to traditional relationships.  We all have our different morals and how precious we hold sex may be different to each of us.  I do think if you are choosing to have sex with multiple partners I think you should be honest with them (and no lies of omission here), or at the very least please be safe.

But the actual sex.  Please dont let it be casual.  You should be looking for nothing less than fireworks.  Otherwise why bother.